At Marlborough Law, one of the things we care deeply about is helping separated parents navigate the complexities of co-parenting in a way that minimises stress and maximises wellbeing for their children. With the summer holidays fast approaching, now is the time for thoughtful preparation and clear communication. These seven weeks can be a source of joy, but they can also present real challenges, especially for parents juggling work and holiday responsibilities.
Karen Salmon, founder of Marlborough Law, recently spoke about the unique pressures that arise during this period. As she explained, most schools in West Berkshire break up for summer on 21 July, leaving parents with just a few weeks to organise and finalise their arrangements.
Start Planning Now
If you have a Child Arrangements Order or another type of formal agreement, revisit it now. Make sure you understand your dates and responsibilities. If you do not have a formal agreement in place, now is the time to start discussions with the other parent. Planning early allows both parents to submit holiday leave requests at work and avoid last-minute stress or conflict.
Check Passports Early
One of the most common oversights is failing to check passports in advance. Children can become very excited about upcoming travel, only to be disappointed when they discover their passport has expired. This is an easily avoidable source of heartbreak. Take the time now to review all documentation and renew anything that is out of date.
Manage Expectations Sensibly
Summer is not a competition. Children do not need extravagant holidays to feel loved or to have a memorable break. Whether you are taking them abroad or enjoying a simpler holiday in Cornwall, what matters most is time spent together. Avoid turning the summer into a rivalry with your former partner. The aim should be to give your children consistency, reassurance, and security.
Stick to Agreements
It is crucial to follow through on any arrangements that have been agreed or ordered. Children should not be left uncertain about where they will be or what they will be doing. Whether it is holiday clubs, time with grandparents, or a beach trip, clarity helps them feel safe and valued. Letting them down at the last minute can cause anxiety and emotional distress.
Keep Conflict Away from the Children
Perhaps the most important message of all is this: please do not argue about holiday arrangements in front of the children. Disagreements may happen, but they should be resolved calmly and privately. Remember that your child’s emotional well-being is the priority. They deserve a peaceful and joyful summer without being caught in the middle of adult disagreements.
We Are Here to Help
At Marlborough Law, we believe in keeping children at the heart of every decision. We support mediation and non-confrontational solutions that help families move forward in harmony. If you are struggling with a Child Arrangements Order or need help resolving holiday planning disputes, please do not hesitate to contact us. We are here to provide guidance, reassurance, and legal support throughout the summer and beyond.
Your family’s peace of mind matters to us.
Frequently asked questions about holiday arrangements for children
A Child Arrangements Order is a legal agreement issued by the Family Court which outlines where a child will live, who they will spend time with, and when. It is often used by separated parents to formalise parenting schedules and avoid disputes. At Marlborough Law, we can help you apply for or vary an order to suit your family’s changing needs.
If discussions become difficult or break down entirely, you do not have to go through it alone. Mediation is often a successful first step, and Marlborough Law specialises in non-confrontational approaches to resolving parenting disputes. Our goal is always to protect the children from conflict and reach a fair and workable solution.
Yes, it is always wise to get legal advice. Verbal agreements can work well when relations are amicable, but they can also lead to misunderstandings or disputes later on. A written agreement, even if it is not a formal court order, can provide clarity and peace of mind. We can guide you on the best route forward based on your circumstances.
